Here is one reason that self confidence is key to helping you succeed.
“The more confident you are, the less you’ll rely on strategies that please others.”
I have seen so many people, and have been victim of it myself, where you take an action not because you truly believe it’s the right thing to do, but you take that action because you’re looking for approval or validation from someone else.
When you are doing that, it’s a slightly needy behavior. I’m not saying it is wrong, I’m just saying that some people may need it or want it more than others.
When your ability to consider a situation very clearly is marred by the need to please the people in the room, or to please the boss, or to please whomever, you can make a wrong decision.
When that happens, if your judgment is clouded, you’re not true to yourself. That’s one of the reasons that self-confidence is important. Self confidence allows you to rise above the need so that you can clearly consider options, without the “need to please” demon invading your brain.
Everyone on earth probably has some “people pleasing” in them, because that’s how we were raised. When we were little kids, we wanted our parents to hold us, to grab us, to laugh with us, and to love us… and we did whatever we needed to do to get that. Again, it is not wrong, it “just is.”
This is a success factor that requires caution. When taking action, it is better to think “what is right?” rather than “what will they think of me?”
